Sex Therapy in Chicago
& Virtual Across Illinois
Soleil Psychotherapy offers sex therapy to support individuals and couples addressing struggles with intimacy, sexual concerns, and the impact of past trauma on sexual well-being. Our clinicians provide professional mental health support, integrating education and evidence-based somatic approaches to help clients build confidence and connection.
Our sexuality is such an important part of our identities, but our sex life and sexual issues often go unspoken inside and outside of psychotherapy. As humans, we are innately social and sexual beings. However, even though human sexuality plays a significant role in our well-being—by allowing procreation, bonding, and the experience of pleasure—these topics are rarely discussed. They remain taboo in mental health sessions and social relationships, even though addressing them is vital for overall sexual health.
If you had parents or caretakers who did not have the knowledge, skills, or desire to talk openly about sex and healthy sexuality, your entire sexuality education could have taken place in a junior high classroom. And honestly, what do you remember from that experience besides where babies come from? Instead of learning about masturbation and pleasure, how to practice safe sex, what consent is, and how to access sexual health resources, our early education is often rooted in fear, focusing on the dangers of sex rather than your overall wellness.
With limited information circulating about human sexuality, sexual dysfunction can often go unaddressed, directly impacting your sex life and relationship satisfaction. Consequences of a poor sexuality education and living in a society where shame and sex often go hand in hand include fear of exploring gender or sexual orientation, an inability to express needs to a partner, and even feeling broken. Sex therapy sessions offer a safe space to address these sexual problems and reclaim your sexual health.
Sex therapy can help with:
Low sexual desire
Arousal concerns
Body image and shame
Orgasm concerns
Painful intercourse
Relationship intimacy challenges
Healing from sexual trauma and its impact on sexuality
You might already feel like you will never be loved or experience pleasure, and perhaps you’ve given up on relationship altogether, but our practice is here to help you challenge these negative socio-cultural messages about sex, rewrite your own sexual narrative and help you feel more connected to your body and navigate relationships in a more assertive and confident way!
Sex often goes unspoken in our world. But we are here to help you discover and express your sexuality.
What is sex therapy?
Sex therapy is very much like individual or relationship therapy except you will be working with a therapist who has received additional specialized training that can help you focus more on themes related to sexuality than you would in traditional or relationship therapy. Sex therapists can provide sex education, and can work with you – either in a one-on-one setting or with your partner – on sexual concerns and issues, including your sexual history, sexual anxiety, aversion and avoidance, and your future desires.
How does sex therapy work?
Our certified sex therapists understand how awkward it can be to open up about such a personal and vulnerable subject, especially with a stranger. We work hard to create a safe space where we can learn about your history and provide a forum where you can discuss sexual concerns, fears, and sexual health. Whether you are seeking individual support or couples therapy, we provide the guidance and tools needed to maximize your sex life and gain deeper insight into your partner’s human sexuality.
They utilize a somatic approach, which means that not only will you explore your narrative and stories about sexual messages from childhood, but you will also learn how to connect to your body in a way that supports your overall sexual wellness. Your therapy sessions will often involve education about sexual functioning and your sexual life through props, diagrams, and recommended readings. Your therapist may also recommend exercises for you to practice on your own or with your partner between sessions. We use cognitive and behavioral strategies and heavily rely on mindfulness and somatic approaches to help you feel more present and pleasurable in your body.
How will you benefit from Sex therapy?
You will discover a more embodied version of yourself.
First and foremost, you could improve the self-esteem and the relationship you have with yourself by becoming more embodied, connected, and freed from external expectations. We will also help you work through shame that might be preventing you from exploring your sexual identity and beliefs, helping you increase your confidence in exploring sexuality and expressing your preferences to improve your overall sexual satisfaction.
Overall, the result of sex therapy can be a stronger foundation to live a happier, healthier and sex positive life.
Our therapists are sex-positive, kink-friendly, and affirming of polyamorous relationships.
Issues we treat in sex therapy:
Libido discrepancy in relationships
Low or lack of sexual desire
Arousal concerns
Erectile dysfunction
Difficulty staying “present”
Orgasm concerns
Difficulty reaching an orgasm
Delayed and premature ejaculation
Painful intercourse and other chronic pain
Gender and sexual identify exploration
Shame around sex, sexuality, masturbation, etc.
Navigating the effects of aging on your sexual experience
Sexuality and religion
BDSM, Kink and Fetishes
Out of control sexual behavior